For soft soldering, both the pipe and inside of the fitting must be so clean that they are shiney. If not so, reclean them. Both must have a thin coat of flux on them.Then the pipe and fitting should be heated in such a way as to make them both arrive at the proper soldering temperature at the same time. This usually just means that you heat only the thickest part (the fitting and not the pipe). Hold the flame in one place or move it slightly. The flux will often change color when soldering temperature is approached. Feed the solder in, in one or two places. Use about 1/2 inch of wire solder for 1/2 inch pipe. If the seats can melt, maybe you should remove them. Ask more questions if necessary.